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When in Rome

March 18, 2014

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I often think that the experience of the older child adopted is like the adage, “When in Rome, do as the Romans.” I thought about this while having soup with my friends. When I first came home I ate with my elbows on the table, head in bowl slurped up the soup with noise that […]

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Checking myself

March 15, 2014

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I had my first dream in Korean.  I talk in my sleep too. My dreams are most vivid the minute before I wake up and open my eyes.  I can’t remember what I said, but it was in Korean.  So surprised, I tried hard to go back to sleep to figure it all out.  I […]

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Codeswitch, Part I

March 1, 2014


Code-switching – the practice of shifting the languages you use or the way you express yourself in your conversations. http://www.npr.org/blogs/codeswitch Anyone who enters the adoption community or has gone through the adoption process quickly learns that our constellation has words all unto ourselves.  To hear an adoptee talk about her mother, we automatically know she […]

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optical illusions, 3D stereograms and eye tricks

January 30, 2014


Ever stare at one of those prints where you are supposed to cross your eyes and slowly step back and a 3D image is supposed to pop out of the picture?  Some people get it immediately and listening to them explain the image to someone who is not seeing it can be alternately humorous and […]

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Put a label on it

December 25, 2013

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When I was 16 I was talking in name brands.  I didn’t know it then, but I am acknowledging it now, I think it is in my DNA to do so.  My Korean DNA.  At 16 I was an awkward, very skinny, very gangly albeit graceful ugly duckling.  I hid in baggy clothes too busy […]

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December 8, 2013

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I am an NPR/WNYC junkie.  Brian Lehrer saved my sanity when my little one would sleep only in a car seat every morning for his nap.  So for two hours I would drive around and listen to Brian.  My daily intake of NPR expanded to many other segments and in particular Michele Norris and her Race Card Project.  This project came […]

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December 6, 2013


I saw “Frozen”.  Awesome!  Beautiful!  Love!  Ok, so my boys thought it was “slightly girlie.”  No matter, I hope everyone sees it.  What made it so special for me and probably most adults was the love of sisters, siblings. I saw two sisters who have their children attend the same school as mine.  I see […]

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Threading the needle

November 21, 2013


I mess up idioms.  I have often been caught saying, “I’ll see it when I believe it” much to my husband’s derision.  I also have a habit of saying “5 and 4” instead of “4 and 5”. I chalk this up to not having English as my first language during my formative years.  As much as […]

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Thank you

October 11, 2013


As a parent, I am always listening for politeness, especially in my own children.  It’s interesting to see who of my kids’ friends remembers to say “thank you” and I know I am not the only one keeping a mental tally of the ones who do or not.  I try and remember to say “thank […]

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October 7, 2013


This post will take a bit to read…please be patient “Show me how big your brave is…” – Sara Bareilles In recent weeks, the adoption community has been tackling some tough questions – the validity of the adoptive family unit, the rights of birth (first) parents, the role of government in the way we Americans […]

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