What if you could change one thing about the ADOPTING process? Just one. What would it be?
I was ready to throw in the towel. Really. There are so many amazing blogs, which I have yet to still figure out how to put on my own page, out there by some fantastic writers who can speak to the myriad of issues in adoption far better. So, what have I got to offer? Just like in a session with a client, I am asking myself, how can I be of service? Where do we go from here? And then, I woke up yesterday to three very personal emails from people who shared their own reasons for reading my words and what it meant for them. I am rejuvinated. We all need acknowlegement right?
Here goes…who are you folks out there? I thought I would start by asking a question on random wednesdays to get the conversation started. I am a community organizer above all else. I know, the last presidential election cycle made it sound like a dirty word out there. But adoption has always been about community, an expansion of the definition of family, the chosen group that we call home.
So, here is my answer. If I could change just one thing about the adopting process, it would be a more in-depth interview of the prospective adoptive parents. No brainer there. But I would use the AAI – Adult Attachment Inventory – as my tool of choice. I like that it gives some tangible ways of talking about the history of relationships in a person and how it might impact on future ones.
Here is one such example – just for fun – http://www.web-research-design.net/cgi-bin/crq/crq.pl