As an adopted person, I have heard my fair share of how people use the word “adopt” or “adopted” to suite their fancy in the most egregious ways. Is there no other way to define the acquisition of things like dolls, antiques, laws, roads and the like without using the word “adoption”? Every time I hear the word not related to children and families I find myself irritated.
Actually, today, I am eating my words. I saw an article linked on Huffington Post titled “Controversy Alert: Is Bobbi Kristina Dating Her Adopted Brother?” Aside from the admission that I am an entertainment gawker and a fan of HuffPo as my source for all things entertainment, I admit this pissed me off. This fiction made the national circulation? “Unofficially adopted”? And highlighting the tag word “incestuous”? I am trying to make sense of this as I am sure there are a ton of young girls and boys reading this article and maybe some of them are adopted and wondering, what the hell? What is this reporter’s definition of adoption?
What is ticking me off more than anything is that this story gets posted and seen by millions only to confuse the public yet again about what adoption really is about. And yet where are the mass eyeballs and outrage of the case of Paul and Paula Dunham of St. Cloud, MN, a story passed around among my adoptee friends but not read anywhere else? So, I am passing this along again for those of you who have not seen it. The idea that this continues to exist in the adoption world is far scarier and worrisome. This is worth my time to think about, I hope you do too: